Jan 15, 2008 7:00 pm US/Central
More Than 21 Tips On The Art Of Flirting
Deanna Frazier, Attraction Expert, Seminar Leader and Coach
Flirting is a way of opening the door to dating. This is about being willing and able to flirt for the fun of it.
Flirting is a form of acknowledging someone in order to explore the possibility of having more in common. Remember flirting is the art of interacting with others without serious intent.
Nothing makes our cheek flush, eyes sparkle and our hearts beat with excitement more than when an acceptable suitor or suite is playfully flirting with us and responding to our advances.
The two biggest mistakes people make are not flirting in the first place and not recognizing when someone is flirting with them.
Who should flirt? Everyone! Flirt! Flirt! Flirt!
Men love it when a woman flirts with them and nice girls do flirt. They flirt nicely. If guys flirt right, it is appropriate behavior.
Ladies - don't go out in a pack. Go alone... divide and conquer.
Don't confuse flirting with seduction. Seduction and sexual teasing are manipulative and even desperate. Flirting is clearly an honest expression of interest in another person.
Good flirts don't ever make eye contacts to body parts other than the eye. Women are diminished when checked out.
When sexual scrutiny begins, friendly flirtation ends. Although great buns may call to you... they can't actually converse with you.
HOW TO FLIRT?
- Say Hello with Energy.
- Shake Hands: As in saying hello, a handshake needs special energy.
- Repeat the Person's Name: Doing your new companion a favor. Remind him or her of your name.
- Don't talk too much. Ask questions instead. Let the other person tell you how great they are. . .
- How about the Classic Wink? It is not used enough.
Humor and lightness are really important ingredients in successful small talk. Avoid heavy sarcasm, even if you think it's funny. Sarcasm has an uncomfortable edge to it that turns most people off.
WHERE CAN YOU FLIRT?
- Everywhere: the theater, the movies, the library, the grocery story, the dentist office, the airplane.
Cruise the grocery aisle at 9:30 p.m. That is when the career-minded single people shop. The workaholics need to keep their energy up. Check out the produce department and the frozen foods.
- Seek out people who share your interest in certain types of food.
Dogs are a flirt's best friend. They are natural flirts. They do zany spontaneous things sometimes to people. Dogs are 'chick magnets'. Dog lovers love dog lovers. Most women will return a Frisbee.
MYTHS OF FLIRTING
- It is only about sex.
- Only a very confident extrovert can flirt.
- Flirting is dangerous because it may not be received well
Remember that flirting is a way of connecting from the heart and acknowledging someone. Be generous! Have fun NOW! Do your homework!!
Get out there and flirt at least once a day for the next week.
- Practice on everyone.
- Flirt for fun and friendship.
- Leave any fear or desperation at home.
No matter what you think, to be a great flirt it's not necessary to be devastatingly attractive, rich, smooth, or good at batting your eyelashes. In fact average, ordinary, non-threatening people are approached much more often than extraordinary people because they aren't seen as threatening.
And because flirting requires a carefree heart, it is small triumphs at the beginning, which will encourage you to continue.
It's just a flirt...not the rest of your life!
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